Break the Pattern

Have you ever noticed that certain difficult situations in your life keep happening over and over again? For example, if you often feel taken advantage of by others, you may need to look at your role in those circumstances. Perhaps you need to develop clearer boundaries or better communication skills. Or maybe you continually find yourself in unhealthy relationships. Think about what is making you choose to spend time with those people. 

When you see negative patterns, it’s no coincidence. Those difficult situations are there to teach you whatever it is that you may need to learn. Don’t beat yourself up about it. Think of them as opportunities to become a mentally healthier you! The pattern will keep repeating until you learn the life lesson associated with it, which breaks the loop.

No matter what your negative pattern is, the only thing that’s in your control is YOUR part in the situation. Ask yourself, “Am I reliving the same scene over and over again?” “What am I doing to contribute to this imbalance in my life? Look at the situation as an opportunity to learn, grow and change.

Technique of the week: Take a minute (right now) and think about this: Do you find yourself in any repetitive negative situations? Do you feel stuck? Awareness is the first step toward changing your part of any bad pattern. Only then can you make a conscious choice to keep them from repeating!